I have two friends Todd and Julie, who are doing catering business for wedding. They are good and very popular. While recently they got a business for a same sex marriage. They feel reluctant to do that because they are all Christian. They talked about that with me and expressed that they do not want to do that because it is not worth celebrating. While, I think, before, men decided that whether a woman should be educated or not, white people decided whether the black could live or not which we think are absurd nowadays, today, the heterosexual are trying to decide whether the homosexual love should be celebrated or not today. I believe love should be celebrated no matter what, there is no Christian love or homosexual love, there is only one kind of love, Christian could provide services to homosexual people to celebrate their love. My argument would be as following.
The first question I would like Todd and Julie to think about is “Can I be wrong?” The first thing one should be prepared to learn is that I may be wrong and the other is right. Obviously, this does not apply to certain basic truths of your faith, such as the divine nature of Christ, or that we are saved by grace. The overall structure of the Christian faith is lie in the fact that allowing doubts to erode these truths does not bring a liberal mind, but only a shaky foundation. However, apart from God has given the truth and not allowed us have doubts in terms of some issue, there are many places where we naturally tend to draw conclusions but are likely to be wrong. When we are unwilling to admit that we are bound to make mistakes, we reveal that we are more interested in winning arguments and protecting ourselves than discovering the truth and triumphing the truth（Nicole，2016）. Those who correct our misunderstandings are really our helper, not our opponents, and we should be grateful for their service and do not resent them. As for our fame, we should seek to be known for insisting on the truth, rather than pretend not to be wrong – as we would criticize when the Catholic Church claims that the pope has always been right.
Someone may say that everyone has the right to stand for one’s own belief and the religious freedom should not be violated in any way. It is all right to against something that is a issue out of religion. While is it really a issue of religion belief? I would like to invite Todd and Julie to dig a little deeper why they refuse to cater for the couple, is it really out of religion belief or just prejudice? Have they ever done something that is prohibited by the bible? Like have they catering the wedding for the second marriage people? The Bible does not expressly oppose homosexuality, but it have mentioned many times that divorce is a sin.They feel disgusted seeing the two holding hands, this obviously personal hatred towards homosexual. So, Todd and Julie may hold prejudice to the homosexual.
How should we see the issue of homosexual? First of all, the current attitude of people to the homosexual are mainly influenced by British Christian’ view of the relevant parts of the Bible. In Asia, especially in India and China, sex has never treated treated as a dirty event, it is only a pleasure enjoyed secretly and for reproduce. In India, the stone carvings in the Indian temples are proof that a variety of sexual acts (including masturbation) are expressions of sensual pleasure which could be enjoyed within a certain limit of morality (Dharma-virtue). We, as human beings, have this body, longing for all kinds of pleasure ,not just sex, we desire for food, pleasant smells, wonderful sounds, and so forth. If we insist on resist them and treat them as sin, it will be like suppress nature with strong force, which is harmful. People are affected by Maya-ignorance, the body as a real existence is eager to meet their pursuit of sensory entertainment. However, after the spiritual maturity, Maya-ignorance could be replaced by knowledge and wisdom. There is nothing wrong with sex itself. The problem is attachment to it and being slavery of it to think that indulge in sexual things can bring the ultimate happiness. Let’s take a look at the meaning of “improper sex” – we are referring to improper, not all sexual things.Improper behavior should means that those action hurt themselves or the other. In a sense, if the two sides are all adults and do it voluntarily. it does not constitute harm. Sex is a human activity, it has nothing to do with heaven and hell. How can we regard homosexuality as a “mistake” and heterosexuality is “right”, both are sexual activities with the body and are strong manifestations of lust. We have no right to condemn those who are different from our thoughts and practices, especially when we are also slaves of other sensory pleasures. We know that when we have a finger pointing to others, there are three fingers pointing to our own.Let’s see what can be seen as wrong? When saying that an act is wrong, it should not because it violates a certain moral standard, but the action itself has harm on oneself or others . Therefore, according to this logic, the natural homosexuality should not be deemed as wrong or sin; on the contrary, if born with homosexuality, but they desperately suppress or even want to change it will harm themselves which would be wrong.
So I believe it is good for Christian to provide catering business for the same sex wedding is to celebrate the love. I hope Todd and Julie could do it to all the people by all means. While, it is such a psychological barrier and they really can’t do it, I would recommend Todd and Julie could introduce other catering company to the gay couple, and send their wishes to the gay couple, at least try not to hurt the feeling of the gay couple. What we should do with life? “John Wesley, English religious thinker and founder of the Methodist Church, sum up his philosophy of life: Our business here on earth is to do good- as much and as often as we can”(Landau). As human beings, we are supposed to bring the true, the good, the beauty to the world. True love in any form is worth celebrated, be it men to women or men to men. They ask for the dignity in the eyes of people, they want to form a marital union of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice which are all virtues of life. We should not exclude anyone just because the oldest civilization institution. Do as much as good you can to all the people by all means and to all the people for as long as you can.
Nicole, R. (2016). Dealing with Those Who Differ from You. [online] Founders Ministries. Available at: http://founders.org/journals/ [Accessed 7 Nov. 2016].